Ghosted: When Children Cut Contact

Description

If you are looking for TRANSFORMATION, TRUTH and HEALING, this workshop is for you. It's body oriented, it's illuminating, and deeply healing.

Ghosted: When Children Cut Contact
A Family Constellations Day with OxISC, the Oxford Institute for Systemic Constellations
- Saturday 28 November 2026, 10am to 5pm, Headington, Oxford -

More and more parents live with a painful silence. A son or daughter has stopped calling, stopped answering, or has said clearly that they don't want contact. Often there was no big argument. Sometimes there was. Either way, the parent is left with questions, guilt, anger, grief, and a love that has nowhere to go.

This day is for parents who are living with estrangement from an adult child. It is also open to adult children who have stepped away from a parent and want to understand more, and to anyone who is curious about how family patterns travel through the generations.

How we work

In a family constellation, people in the group stand in for members of your family. You don't need to explain the whole story. Something remarkable happens: the representatives begin to feel and show what is going on in the family system, often things that have never been spoken. We can see who is looking where, who feels pushed out, who is carrying something that doesn't belong to them.

Estrangement is rarely only about the parent and the child. Very often we find older stories in the background: a grandparent who was lost, a war, an early death, a secret, a parent who was themselves cut off. A child may pull away out of a hidden loyalty to someone else in the family. When this becomes visible, the pain often makes more sense, and blame can soften on both sides.

We work gently and at your pace; and everything shared will remain strictly confidential. The aim is not to force a reconciliation. The aim is to find a place of more peace inside yourself, so that you can carry the situation differently, and sometimes this also opens a door in the relationship itself.

Why we learn so much from this work

You don't need to bring your own issue to gain a lot from the day. Standing in as a representative is a powerful experience. You feel in your own body what it is like to be the one who leaves, the one who is left, or the one in the background who nobody mentions. Many people find that watching another family's constellation touches something in their own story too. We leave with more understanding, more compassion, and a bigger view of what love in families can look like.

Your facilitator

Silvia Siret is a qualified Integrative Counsellor and has worked with family constellations for nearly 30 years, facilitating workshops since 2006. Richard Pantlin, who is co-host and supporting, is co-founder of OxISC and also an experienced constellations facilitator. Together we are bringing OxISC back to life as a home for constellations work in Oxford.

Places

If your situation is very fresh or raw, you are welcome to contact us before booking for a short chat.

Practical information

The venue is a private space in Headington, near Oxford Brookes University. The address is sent on booking. Please bring your own lunch and cutlery. Teas, coffee and biscuits are provided. Parking is limited (2 hours free only), so the bus is the easiest option. There is a bus stop and shop nearby, and bicycles can be left safely in the yard.

Silvia is an experienced group facilitator since 2005, with a passion for creating spaces that enable people to safely explore personal and organisational issues. People come away feeling more hopeful, more empowered, with a more positive outlook and a clearer path ahead.

Your investment:

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"Every time I work with Silvia, I find more healing and more insight into life's truths and ways, and I find them gentle and caring in their ways."

"I have benefited greatly from my work with you. I appreciate your skill in guiding me with sensitivity and patience so I could ‘see’ and was able to transform my energy within my relationships to get me out of overthinking and worrying. I went away feeling much more centred and balanced, and I am more able to communicate with a newfound openness with my friends and family. Thank you for your care and the amazing work you do."