Each week on Zoom, you will meet with others who are dating and share the same desire to date in a healthy, informed way. Rachel will give a short talk, lead you in some reflective activities to improve your dating life, and answer your burning questions about dating. As you get to know each other, you'll learn from and support each other too. The course aims to enable you to enjoy healthier, intentional and more empowered dating experiences.
The six week dating programme involves various activities, exercises and assessments, should be fun as well as challenging, and is supported by Rachel’s Dating Workbook (which you will need to buy) and various handouts.
Outline
Session 1: Celebrating yourself 
Aims:
To think about why you are dating and what you want from it
To feel good about yourself and give off the right vibe
To identify your strengths, values, goals
To understand your relationship with yourself
To apply this to your dating profile, online messaging and real-life conversations
To answer the questions "What do you like about yourself?" and "Tell me about yourself" on a date
Session 2: What are your relationship needs? 
Aims:
To explore different models of dating and relationships
To be selective and have high expectations
To believe you deserve to be treated well
To explore and articulate your relationship needs
To distinguish between essentials and desirables
To learn about red and green flags
Session 3: The psychology of online dating 
Aims:
To learn about the costs and benefits of online dating
To compare the efficiency and processes of online and real-life/organic dating
To gain some insight into the psychological processes underlying people’s behaviour when online dating
To understand and challenge the effects of prejudice and discrimination in online dating
To become informed about the statistics of who is dating in the UK
To explore the best dating apps for you
Session 4: Dating profiles and messaging
Aims:
Get support from each other about your current dating situation
Get feedback on your dating profile
Discuss messaging scenarios
Learn about what research shows works best in messaging
Get feedback on your messages
Discuss various hypothetical messaging situations
To be discerning about fake profiles and scammers
To move from messages to dates with the right people
Session 5: Forming a connection on a date
Aims:
To enjoy your dates more and reduce date anxiety
To use the date effectively to find out key information
To build a connection and create warmth and chemistry
To get down to a deeper level
To create a personalised bank of questions and topics of conversation for dates


Session 6: Dating etiquette and communicating your needs
Aims:
To use and interpret non-verbal communication on dates
To get second dates with the right people
How to decide if you want another date
To make sense of dates that don’t work out
To communicate about intimacy, sexual health, hygiene, COVID safety
To discuss how the first ten dates should look:
How and when do I suggest a second date?
How often should we message in between dates?
How often should we see each other?
How do I cope with insecurity and uncertainty?
When should we discuss exclusivity?
When should I stay the night?
How long should the dates last?
How do I end things?
When does dating turn into a relationship?
When do I use the L word?
Special offers:If you sign up for the course, you will get a discount of 20% off your first one to one consultation, if you would like to explore any of the issues raised in more detail. Many of Rachel's clients find it beneficial to go into more detail about their childhood or past relationships, for example, in a therapeutic coaching session.What previous participant said about the course:"For me, coaching with Rachel has been literally life-changing. When I first contacted Rachel I only expected to find out if dating was viable for someone as socially anxious as me and maybe a little help with my dating profile. What ended up happening transformed not just my beliefs about romantic relationships but about myself, emotions and all my other relationships. And throughout I have found her to be unceasingly gentle, patient and kind.
If a past version of myself read the above it would probably put him off. I would tell him: Rachel will not judge those parts of you that you might be a bit embarrassed about, and not only is she a lovely, friendly person, she is also as evidence-based as a dating coach can get. The worst thing that could happen is you lose a bit of time and money. But the best thing could be that she helps you find someone to spend the rest of your life with. So, if you’re thinking about contacting Rachel, stop procrastinating and go for it!” (Nick, 29)
"I really enjoyed the course. There were plenty of questions and purposeful advice that helped me to reflect on how I approached dates." (Simon, 35)
"I've really enjoyed attending this workshop. Every session has been thought provoking and I have really enjoyed the discussions and the many different perspectives and experiences discussed. The environment felt warm and inviting which allowed me to be vulnerable. Rachel's warm personality was a great help especially in the beginning stages of getting to know everyone. Rachel was very insightful. If you don't know where to begin in the dating world, this workshop is for you." (Lisa, 37) 
"I've learned a lot from Rachel's workshop and it's been great to have a safe and supportive space to talk about some of my challenges in dating. Rachel's a very empathetic and open dating coach. I'd recommend this workshop for anyone looking for a top level introduction to improving their dating habits and prospects." (Isioma, 41)
"Having already had a few 1:1 dating coaching sessions with Rachel, I was keen to take part in the group course in order to have more interaction with others who have also been struggling on this journey and learning from their experiences. I realised that the group sessions would also have a slightly different approach to the 1:1s and thought this could be beneficial to me. I really enjoyed the group course! Rachel's extensive knowledge, from her coaching and research, is evident in the sessions. They were carefully planned and developed but also she managed to personalise them and respond to slightly more individual needs or questions within the group once the sessions were under way. Rachel provided good materials to download as part of the course, in addition to the use of her 'Dating Workbook' as part of the tools for the sessions. I have found these very helpful and the Dating Workbook is great for both guided and independent use. The topics covered in both the group sessions and the Workbook are helpful and it has been good to remind myself about 'who I am', in order to be able to put that forward to potential dates - especially as I feel I am quite a different person now that I am almost 20 years older than when I last dated! Equally useful for me has been working out my 'deal-breakers' and 'deal-makers' to help me be more focussed and intentional with my dates. I look forward to putting these tools and experiences into practice, as well as the sessions from Part 2 of the course, on my next dates and using the Workbook to reflect on how I am progressing towards finding my next relationship. Thank you, Rachel, for all your guidance and support!" (Zosia, 46)
"I have been attending Rachel’s seminars since 2017. Healthy Dating though was my first course. I like that Rachel blends academic knowledge and practical skills in her teaching, whilst also drawing upon learners’ own experiences. There are a number of resources shared and (optional) homework. Even though I consider myself to be quite well versed when it comes to contemporary dating and relationship skills, I still enjoyed the course and learnt some new things." (Richard, 47)
"I thoroughly enjoyed the healthy dating sessions. Initially I was slightly apprehensive as I am quite shy and introverted, however the sessions were very relaxed. Each session offered the opportunity to ask questions and discuss topics with other course members, although there is no pressure to do so. After each session homework was set to help reflect on what we had learnt. As a result I feel more empowered and confident as I start dating again." (Joe, 47) 
"It’s been good to challenge myself to do a course that involves opening up a bit about things I’d tend to keep hidden and not discuss. Definitely ‘outside my comfort zone’ discussing feelings and experiences of dating. But it’s been good to share experiences with others in a supportive atmosphere. The course contents is comprehensive and well-structured and there's no pressure to contribute any more than you feel comfortable." (Pete, 58)
"This kind of group was a real find. I found the mini-course very helpful by giving me space to think about important dating questions. The guys in the group were great. They were willing to share their experiences and wisdom and hearing from such nice open people in the same boat as me was very therapeutic and helpful. Rachel is a very organized, informative, involved, and gentle mediator and a very wise, informed, empathic guide. Many thanks, Rachel!" (Sarah, 67)

Message Rachel if you are interested but can't make the scheduled times.

Rachel New Dating and Relationships Coach

Social Skills

Dating

Psychology

Coaching

Relationships

Do you want your dating to be an enjoyable and empowered experience? Would you like to develop a healthier, more intentional approach to dating? Sign up to Rachel's eight week course and get the tools you need to become more resilient and understand the psychological processes going on with dating.

Healthy Dating

Book Part 1 now (four weeks) and then decide whether to sign up for Part 2 later.

Healthy Dating Six Week Programme

In this self-directed course, dating and relationships expert Rachel New will guide you through a wealth of teaching videos, assessments, reflective and creative tasks to help you understand yourself better so that you can date in a healthy, empowered way.This course is perfect for you if you&#39;re new to dating, coming back to dating after a break, or want to change the way you date.<iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/u_CdaVPmZgg" title="YouTube video player" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="" fr-original-style="" style="box-sizing: border-box;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</iframe>Who is Rachel?&nbsp;Rachel New is a dating and relationships coach and educator in London, UK. Drawing on her work in research at the University of Oxford, Rachel has a very evidence-based approach, using published scientific research to inform her advice. She encourages ethical and healthy dating &ndash; treating others well and looking after yourself and using a mindful approach. Rachel has training in counselling, mindfulness and couples therapy.What will I get out of the course?You&#39;ll be exploring your beliefs, thoughts, emotions and patterns of behaviour that often originate in childhood and past relationships, and figuring out how those affect your dating and the way to relate to others. Perhaps you have thoughts such as "There must be something wrong with me", &nbsp;you back off after a date, or get too emotionally involved too fast.&nbsp;Using mindfulness, self-compassion and CBT approaches, you&#39;ll learn how to make sense of your anxieties, fears, insecurities or pessimism about dating, and how to accept yourself and gain in confidence about how you come across on a date.&nbsp;You&#39;ll learn to celebrate yourself and the rich tapestry of experiences and influences that make you who you are, without comparing yourself to others.All of this will enable you to become more resilient to the ups and downs of dating, and know how to make sense of setbacks.How will the course change the way I date and relate to others?By the end of the course, you&#39;ll be able to say what you like about yourself, what you want from dating, and what you deserve. You&#39;ll have a range of tools to address those emotional responses and challenge unhelpful thoughts, and to recognise what&#39;s going on when you behave in ways that get in the way of your dating.Then you&#39;ll be more motivated to date, able to enjoy your dating more, date the right people, know when it&#39;s right to go on another date with someone, and see yourself as an empowered, equal partner on a date.Who is the course for?This course is suitable for all ages, genders and preferences.How much does the course cost?It&#39;s &pound;40 (plus a small transaction fee) or you can pay &pound;70 for the course PLUS a 45 min consultation with Rachel to talk through any issues arising from the course that you want more support with. What do others say about Rachel&#39;s coaching?&ldquo;Rachel is not just an expert who can help get you a date. She has helped me a develop a loving and intimate relationship with myself, to prepare me for developing valuable relationships with others. Rachel has helped me define moral boundaries within myself and taught me how to overcome stereotypes and anxieties I have had around women. The great thing about Rachel is that she helps you turn your weaknesses into strengths. Working with Rachel I have gone from being an extremely shy, repressed, introverted person into a very confident, popular young man who isn&rsquo;t afraid to speak to women. Rachel doesn&rsquo;t perform magic but she does perform miracles.&rdquo; (Kamran, 34)
&ldquo;For me, coaching with Rachel has been literally life-changing. &nbsp;When I first contacted Rachel I only expected to find out if dating was viable for someone as socially anxious as me and maybe a little help with my dating profile. &nbsp;What ended up happening transformed not just my beliefs about romantic relationships but about myself, emotions and all my other relationships. &nbsp;And throughout I have found her to be unceasingly gentle, patient and kind." (Nick, 29)&ldquo;Rachel has helped me work through my anxiety which was making me feel very negative towards dating and causing problems in other areas of my life. She has provided a really useful framework for understanding and dealing with anxiety, with lots of practical strategies and exercises. This is helping me feel stronger and more prepared, ready to face the rollercoaster that is dating with a more relaxed attitude.&rdquo; (Moira, 35)
&ldquo;Rachel is thoughtful, a wonderful listener and a great coach. I came to Rachel with some anxiety about dating and I came out with a boost to my confidence, self-awareness and resilience. I loved using meditation and the psychology background. With Rachel I have gained more clarity about how to set boundaries in dating and how to express my needs to the other person, and this has already benefited me in other areas of my life too, not just dating. I&rsquo;m also more clear about what I&rsquo;m looking for in a man and what type of relationship I desire. It was overall a great experience in terms of my personal development &ndash; I would definitely recommend Rachel.&nbsp;Thanks, Rachel, for having such a positive impact on my life :)&rdquo; (Isabel, 49)

In this self-directed course, dating and relationships expert Rachel New will guide you through a wealth of teaching videos, assessments, reflective and creative tasks to help you understand yourself better so that you can date in a healthy, empowered way.
This course is perfect for you if you're new to dating, coming back to dating after a break, or want to change the way you date.

Who is Rachel? 
Rachel New is a dating and relationships coach and educator in London, UK. Drawing on her work in research at the University of Oxford, Rachel has a very evidence-based approach, using published scientific research to inform her advice. She encourages ethical and healthy dating – treating others well and looking after yourself and using a mindful approach. Rachel has training in counselling, mindfulness and couples therapy.
What will I get out of the course?
You'll be exploring your beliefs, thoughts, emotions and patterns of behaviour that often originate in childhood and past relationships, and figuring out how those affect your dating and the way to relate to others. Perhaps you have thoughts such as "There must be something wrong with me", you back off after a date, or get too emotionally involved too fast. 
Using mindfulness, self-compassion and CBT approaches, you'll learn how to make sense of your anxieties, fears, insecurities or pessimism about dating, and how to accept yourself and gain in confidence about how you come across on a date. 
You'll learn to celebrate yourself and the rich tapestry of experiences and influences that make you who you are, without comparing yourself to others.
All of this will enable you to become more resilient to the ups and downs of dating, and know how to make sense of setbacks.
How will the course change the way I date and relate to others?
By the end of the course, you'll be able to say what you like about yourself, what you want from dating, and what you deserve. You'll have a range of tools to address those emotional responses and challenge unhelpful thoughts, and to recognise what's going on when you behave in ways that get in the way of your dating.
Then you'll be more motivated to date, able to enjoy your dating more, date the right people, know when it's right to go on another date with someone, and see yourself as an empowered, equal partner on a date.
Who is the course for?
This course is suitable for all ages, genders and preferences.
How much does the course cost?
It's £40 (plus a small transaction fee) or you can pay £70 for the course PLUS a 45 min consultation with Rachel to talk through any issues arising from the course that you want more support with.

What do others say about Rachel's coaching?
“Rachel is not just an expert who can help get you a date. She has helped me a develop a loving and intimate relationship with myself, to prepare me for developing valuable relationships with others. Rachel has helped me define moral boundaries within myself and taught me how to overcome stereotypes and anxieties I have had around women. The great thing about Rachel is that she helps you turn your weaknesses into strengths. Working with Rachel I have gone from being an extremely shy, repressed, introverted person into a very confident, popular young man who isn’t afraid to speak to women. Rachel doesn’t perform magic but she does perform miracles.” (Kamran, 34)

“For me, coaching with Rachel has been literally life-changing. When I first contacted Rachel I only expected to find out if dating was viable for someone as socially anxious as me and maybe a little help with my dating profile. What ended up happening transformed not just my beliefs about romantic relationships but about myself, emotions and all my other relationships. And throughout I have found her to be unceasingly gentle, patient and kind." (Nick, 29)
“Rachel has helped me work through my anxiety which was making me feel very negative towards dating and causing problems in other areas of my life. She has provided a really useful framework for understanding and dealing with anxiety, with lots of practical strategies and exercises. This is helping me feel stronger and more prepared, ready to face the rollercoaster that is dating with a more relaxed attitude.” (Moira, 35)

“Rachel is thoughtful, a wonderful listener and a great coach. I came to Rachel with some anxiety about dating and I came out with a boost to my confidence, self-awareness and resilience. I loved using meditation and the psychology background. With Rachel I have gained more clarity about how to set boundaries in dating and how to express my needs to the other person, and this has already benefited me in other areas of my life too, not just dating. I’m also more clear about what I’m looking for in a man and what type of relationship I desire. It was overall a great experience in terms of my personal development – I would definitely recommend Rachel. Thanks, Rachel, for having such a positive impact on my life :)” (Isabel, 49)




Mindfulness

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

Attachment

Anxiety

Using mindfulness and cognitive-behavioural therapy, dating and relationships expert Rachel New guides you through the foundations to prepare you for healthy dating and love. In this online course, you will explore your anxieties and fears about dating, your limiting beliefs and unhelpful thoughts, and patterns of behaviour that you want to change. You'll become more resilient in your dating, have more confidence and higher self-esteem, and know what you want from your dating. If you want to fall in love with someone who will bring out the best in you, this is the course for you.

Self-care in Dating

General Admission

As well as the resources and videos in the self-directed course, you get a 45 minute one to one session with Rachel to explore in greater depth any of the themes in the course.

Self-directed course plus consultation

Please note that Rachel is not taking bookings until 9th August, so please suggest dates after that when submitting your booking requests.Have an hour&#39;s consultation on Zoom with Rachel to discuss your coaching needs. In this first session, you will talk about your dating and relationship history, what kind of relationship you want, your relationship needs, and how you feel about yourself. Rachel will talk about her approach to coaching and you can explore together ways of working and agree a possible programme of coaching if you are ready. Even if you decide not to have any more coaching, this initial session will be very valuable in helping you clarify what you need.The purpose of coaching is to make your dating or relationship life more enjoyable, healthy and empowered.&nbsp;It is suitable for people who are dating or in a relationship, whether you want to enhance your relationship or want to re-evaluate it.You will get to arrange a time for your consultation once you have completed your application form.Rachel aims to work with all ages, genders, sexual preferences, ethnicities, abilities and backgrounds.&nbsp;Find our what others have said about their experiences of coaching with Rachel <a href="https://rachelnewdatingcoach.co.uk/about/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" fr-original-style="" style="user-select: auto; font-size: var(--font-size); box-sizing: border-box; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: inherit;">here</a>.Learn more about what Rachel offers in coaching <a href="https://rachelnewdatingcoach.co.uk/how-rachel-can-help/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" fr-original-style="" style="user-select: auto; font-size: var(--font-size); box-sizing: border-box; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: inherit;">here</a>.Please note that this initial exploratory consultation is &pound;65, and subsequent sessions are &pound;70. There are package deals available which can be discussed in the first session.Also note that Rachel is not taking bookings for dates between 22nd July and 6th August 2024 inclusive, so please suggest dates after that when submitting your booking requests.

Please note that Rachel has no more availability until 6th January 2025.
Have an hour's consultation on Zoom with Rachel to discuss your coaching needs. In this first session, you will talk about your dating and relationship history, what kind of relationship you want, your relationship needs, and how you feel about yourself. Rachel will talk about her approach to coaching and you can explore together ways of working and agree a possible programme of coaching if you are ready. Even if you decide not to have any more coaching, this initial session will be very valuable in helping you clarify what you need.
The purpose of coaching is to make your dating or relationship life more enjoyable, healthy and empowered. 
It is suitable for people who are dating or in a relationship, whether you want to enhance your relationship or want to re-evaluate it.
You will get to arrange a time for your consultation once you have completed your application form.
Rachel aims to work with all ages, genders, sexual preferences, ethnicities, abilities and backgrounds. 
Find our what others have said about their experiences of coaching with Rachel here.
Learn more about what Rachel offers in coaching here.
Please note that Rachel has no more availability until 6th January 2025.

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